7 Tips on Small Talk and Confidence Building ...


Small talk (or phatic communication if you want to get really technical) can seem meaningless but these tips on small talk show they can help build relationships and ultimately confidence.

I find that we live in an increasingly virtual world where people aren't afraid to converse with people via a computer screen but when faced with real-life human beings, are a little more reluctant.

1. Try Something New

I actually picked this one up from from a work colleague and itโ€™s one of my favorite tips on small talk and confidence building.

Every time he went shopping, he would make a concerted effort to buy something he had never bought before, whether it was a new preserve or exotic spice.

It meant that he was constantly out of his comfort zone trying new things and gaining new experiences which also meant he had more to talk about with others.

It did mean I was sometimes the lucky recipient of the item he didn't like which was always a bonus!2

2. Mirror Mirror

This is a weird one but let's face it, no one is going to know you do this and I think everyone does this at some point in his or her life.

Pick a random subject and talk to yourself in the mirror.2

You'll be amazed by what you may be able to say about the most mundane of things.

It can also be amusing and confidence building is all about not taking yourself too seriously.

Life's just too short for that!

3. Expand Your Cultural Horizons

Go to the theatre, ballet, cinema, and galleries.

Try doing something you wouldnโ€™t normally do.

My boyfriend is a keen golfer and before we got together I had never swung a golf club in my life.

One day he took me to the driving range and I managed to hit (rather awkwardly!) and miss several balls across the golf course.

Now, I wouldnโ€™t say itโ€™s my favorite pass time but Iโ€™m glad I tried it.

Trying new things will give you a variety of things to talk about with others.

It doesn't matter if you don't like them all but the fact of the matter is the more you experience the more you will be able to connect and engage with others.

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