It's important for women everywhere to know the cold hard facts about their bodies. Unfortunately, sexual education doesn't teach us nearly enough about sex. Unless you have parents or an older sibling who is open enough to talk to you about the birds and the bees, you might have some dangerous misconceptions about sex. However, it's time to change that, because here are a few lies you've been told about losing your virginity:
1. It's Going to Hurt
Sex will feel uncomfortable the first few times you do it, but it certainly shouldn't hurt as much as people say it will. The reason why most women are in pain the first time is due to a lack of preparation. You need to make sure that you engage in enough foreplay to lubricate yourself down there. If you're dry, then you're going to be in a lot of pain and might even bleed. That's why you need to take things slow and make sure you're physically and mentally ready before you let your boyfriend touch you.
2. You Should Be a Certain Age
When you turn on the TV, everyone everywhere is having sex. However, you don't have to do it while you're still in high school or while you're in college. There's nothing wrong with waiting until you're completely ready, even if that means you're going to wait until your 20s or until you're married. Any friends who tease you about still being a virgin aren't worth your time.
3. Sex Requires a Penis and Vagina
Intercourse doesn't have to include penetration. The actual definition is "sexual activity between two people." That means it's up to you to create your own definition of sex. Some people consider oral to be sex. Some people consider the usage of fingers to be sex. There's no true blue definition, which means you can decide whether you still consider yourself a virgin or not.
4. You're No Longer Innocent
Losing your virginity doesn't mean you're losing your purity. There are plenty of virgins who are naughty and plenty of sexually active individuals who are innocent. There's no correlation between the two.
5. Your Hymen is a Sign of Virginity
There are plenty of virgins who don't have their hymens intact. It can easily tear from physical exercise and you wouldn't even realize it. So a woman without a hymen could certainly still be a virgin.
6. Sex Will Make Your Vagina Flabby
It doesn't matter how many times you have sex, because your vagina isn't going to get any larger. It acts like a rubber band does. During sex, it'll open up wider than usual, but then it'll go right back to its original size. So you don't have to worry about looking strange down there, because sex won't reshape your body.
7. Sex Will Make a Man Love You
Don't have sex with a guy, because you think it'll make him love you. Unfortunately, sex and love don't always go hand in hand. You can love someone without sleeping with them and you can sleep with someone without loving them. If a boy won't date you now, having sex will only make things worse, not better.
It's important for women everywhere to be aware of the way their bodies work. It's dangerous to have misconceptions about sex and losing your virginity, which is why you should aim to be as informed as possible. What other lies have you been taught about your virginity?