When a person is in such relationship and they have kids it gets waaaay worse couse it effect the kids alot znd they treat there children the same way unfortunatly

I'm shocked that my boyfriend does many of these things listed. But can the abuse only continue of you allow it? I constantly nip all of these bad behaviors in the butt as soon as I recognize them. I'm not someone you can manipulate and I strongly believe that I've made that clear I my boyfriend. Once you get passed what I call "his insecurities" he is truly a great guy I can see myself being with in the long run. I blame his past relationships, because I think that's where he picked up these bad habits. Does anyone have any experience with changing their own bad habits, such as the ones listed above, or their partners ? HELP!

My parents abuse me emotionally all the time and this lust completely fits them

I have suffered from one partner who had these issues n trust me ain't good emotional soon spins off to physical luckily I broke up with him

Hi ladies. I just wanted to share with you that this post really was an eye opener, so much that I did break things off with my boyfriend of 10 months. I first packed all my thing and secretly took them from his place, then I told him we were on a break on a Saturday morning, and the very next Saturday I met him to break up with him in person at a restaurant. I was surprised that he had written me a 14 page letter explaining why he understood that I was breaking up with him and all of his faults that he desperately needed to work on. I had never seen him cry or beg so hard for another chance although we had apart broken up several times for his emotionally abusive personality and insecurities. Despite all he had put me through something deep down in my gut that had once told me I should leave him, was now telling me that I was making the wrong choice. I felt that knot in my throat kind of feeling and I decided to re-read his letter full of ideas that would help fix our relationship. I gave him another chance and I have not regretted it yet. We have been back together for the last 3 weeks and it's been magical. We are open with each other, he is so damn sweet and affectionate (something he struggled with before), he has begun seeing a therapist to aid him in over coming past personal struggles as well as healing wounds from past relationships. His best idea was to tell each other each day something we like about one another and something about our past, and it's really done wonders for us. I know that we will have arguments like any other relationship, but we are willing to communicate things that bother each other and it's very helpful. He is trying so hard to change his ways, and I can tell that this man wants to serve me the world on a silver platter. If this isn't love then I'm not sure I'll ever know what it is, we truly make each other want to be better human beings. PS - I showed him this article the day we met at a restaurant to break up and to my surprise he didn't deny any of the things listed... I guess that's how I knew that there was hope. I hope that he will be my "Happy Ending."

My ex was like that. Always putting me down, always asking me to lend him money and never paying me back. Always saying nasty things about my family and being so two-faced. Being nice to my face in public and then being nasty in private. He put me through hell for almost 5 years. Thank God it's over between us both but it made me feel so scared about trusting someone again. I hated all men for a while until now. I've finally found someone who doesn't have a bad bone in his body but who is just full of love for me. Always caring, understanding, everything that I've ever wanted in a man. I feel so blessed that I've found him and I never can imagine going through all the hell my ex put me through. I won't ever forget it but it will always be a life lesson I'll always learn.

Always remember there are plenty more fish in the sea and pebbles on the beach. Be by yourself is better than being with the wrong person who does not value you. Pick yourself up,dust yourself down and start afresh without this person in your life. Life is too short for being the doormat.

I do this sometimes unintentionally 😔

@holls thank you. I have a terrible feeling in my gut. I tend to see the good in people, which is sometimes not the best thing for me. I badly want to share this post with him, but I'm afraid he'll feel like I'm attacking him and then say that he isn't like that. I was in a physically abusive relationship for 2 &1/2 years before my current relationship of 10 months. I feel like I'm smarter this time around, it doesn't feel the same... But maybe I'm not seeing the signs. It's hard to initiate a break up, especially when I'm afraid to make a mistake. What if he's the one and I'm supposed to help him see things clearly. Thanks again for the advice.

I think I'm guilty of a few of these. Better to realise now rather than later