The kind of rude comments all skinny girls have heard are just as offensive as remarks about someone being overweight. Yet it is often seen as acceptable; we're supposed to just suck it up. Making comments about someone carrying excess pounds is rightly seen as rude. But why is skinny-bashing so acceptable? Here are some of the irritating comments all skinny girls have heard …
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1. You're so Lucky!
Telling us we're lucky to have such a slim frame must be one of the most common comments all skinny girls have heard. I don't understand what luck has to do with it. It's how we are, that's all. Besides, I don't feel very lucky when I get annoying comments such as the ones below …
2. Why Are You Complaining?
Yes, apparently we have no right to complain about anything connected with our size. I'm basically happy with my body - after all, it's the only one I have, and there's nothing wrong with being skinny. However, it is a problem when you get sick and lose weight that you can't afford to lose. And then there are the comments that we skinny girls have to put up with …
3. Do You Ever Eat?
I actually heard this comment at my wedding. A guest saw my full plate and commented "Oh, I thought you never ate." Yet nobody would dream of saying to someone "I thought you eat too much." Some of us genuinely are built very slim; it has nothing to do with food intake. I'm not saying that it is more desirable than another body shape; I am saying that it can be natural.
4. At Least You're Not Fat
Well! That's me told. Apparently I'm better off than someone who is overweight, and should count my blessings. This type of comment manages to be distasteful to both slim and heavier women. It's saying that women with some extra pounds are somehow offensive, while also telling slimmer women to stop complaining. Way to go.
5. Names
Skinny women have all been called names at some point. People tell us we're like a walking skeleton or call us names like chicken legs. If you think this is acceptable, try reversing the situation. Would you tell someone they've got legs like a tree trunk? Most likely (and quite rightly), you would see that as incredibly rude. Understand this: so is calling skinny women names.
6. Have a Burger
This type of comment is often used on Internet comments about very slim celebrities. Some of them do appear to go on unnecessary diets, but how silly it is to imply that one or two high-calorie meals will sort them out. Female celebs should not be put under pressure to lose weight. And for those of us who are genuinely skinny, I have news for you - we could eat burgers every day and still not gain weight.
7. Are You Anorexic?
I've heard this comment many times over a few decades, and it's still infuriating. No, I'm not anorexic, I like my food, and I'm not bulimic either. I have no problem with food at all. It does not automatically follow that someone who is thin must have an eating disorder.
I really do feel as though skinny women are the last group it's okay to offend. Skinny guys are the target of nasty comments as well. Even if you think you are being kind, please think twice about making comments to a skinny girl. It's irritating, and can be very upsetting. What do you think?
Comments
Samantha: I soooo agree with you! I've been tiny all my life at points I've had to shop in the youth department and I'm 40!!!! It's not all that fun
Fateema: People say this to me all the timeeee
Taylor: People will always comment about something. If its not your weight it'll be something else...
Leilah: It's not just skinny people. I have a "desirable" hourglass figure, and I still get comments like "you shouldn't complain" when I feel insecure about my body. People make me feel ungrateful, and rude to heavier people. No matter how you look different comments get under your skin.
Ris: totes my life. the one that really used to get to me was the "do you eat?" Like hello, yes! I eat like a pig, I can't gain weight.. thank you very much! It's so annoying.. I was so unhappy with myself for the longest time because of my petite frame but hey love yourself or no one will right. let people talk, they're going to anyways.
Katie: I couldn't agree more, I have been small since I was born, been on tons of weight gaining diets, of which were unsuccessful. I have learned to accept the way I am, I simply have a hard time gaining weight just as much as someone who tries to lose weight.
Yairah: I hate this! I've been skinny all my life. People can be so insensitive to comment on a person's weight. Do skinny girls/women not have feelings? Its not my fault I have a fast metabolism
Stephanie: I've been asked if I'm anorexic too many times to count UGH!
Yourvsangelcourtney: Thankyou so much for making this. But I do feel flattered when someone says they wish they were my size. And I just feel some people need to stop comparing themselves to others...it causes a lot of unnecessary drama in society
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