For all the ways in which we are constantly bombarded with how and why we can or should change, it’s about time we looked at reasons why you are perfect just the way you are. We live in a society which as quickly accepts us and tells us we are gorgeous, as it does shove ideals and unfair comparisons down our throats like we are four year olds gagging for candy. The only peace that can be found in all this madness is the stuff that comes from within, a bit like an unwavering rock in a turbulent ocean; we need to have firm belief in ourselves in order to weather the storm. So get ready to get real as I am not about to offer you advice, but factual reasons on why you are perfect just the way you are...
1. I Ain't No Clone
Last time I checked, the worlds population was at 7,091,767, 240 and continuing to grow. That’s a whole heap of people. Out of all of those over 7 billion people there is literally only one you. How mind boggling is that? So why would it not make sense to think that you are perfect just the way you are as there is only one you. What true and fair basis of comparison do you have other than the reflection staring back at you in the mirror? You are perfect just the way you are!
2. Wise Words
‘Your journey has molded you for your greater good, and it was exactly what it needed to be. Don’t think that you have lost time. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the Now. And the Now is right on time. – Asha Tyson.
How often do we look at where we are and wish we were somewhere different or had done things differently? Whatever you choose to believe in is your choice, but what makes more sense; wanting to be or have something you are not and denying reality or recognizing that the chain of events and experiences that lead you to where you are right now were not the result of right or wrong decisions but a journey that with every step taken, helped in creating you.
3. What’s Your Definition?
Oxford Dictionary online states the definition of perfect as ‘having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be’.
If you are reading this post and thinking ‘this is all very lovely but we all know that I am not perfect’ then maybe you need to look at what your version of perfect is? Have you just finished eye balling a glossy magazine in which every A-list celebrity seems to be dripping in money and not know the meaning of the word saturated fats? Trying to obtain society’s version of perfect is a slippery slope, but figuring out yours and being in love with it could very well be the golden ticket.
4. The Spice of Life
Despite what we are often lead to believe, it is individuality that makes this world interesting. In accepting who you are as perfect you are agreeing to make the most of what you have instead of trying your entire life to get what you think others have got. There is nothing more attractive than someone who has the confidence to be themselves and proud of it.
5. A Method in the Madness
Whether you believe in Allah, Jesus, Buddha or the Milky Way kid, there is no denying that who or whatever created this earth was one smart cookie. So why when it comes to you, do you think he/she/it must have fallen asleep on the job or forgot to read the manual? You need only to look at the perfection and beauty of a single snow flake to realize that whatever or whoever we came from doesn't make mistakes.
6. It’s a Starting Point
Even as I write this I hear a little voice in my head (one of the many) echoing the messages that I have read, watched and experienced over my life saying ‘but it’s good to want to change, to improve, to better yourself, otherwise you wont realize your full potential’. Maybe that is true. But isn't it better to start out from a place of self love and acceptance rather than dislike, rejection and denial of oneself?
7. There’s More to Life than Perfect
I have realized lately that if I am not careful I will look back on my life in 30 years' time and look back on all the years I spent trying to look, act or be someone or something that I thought I needed to be. And why? So I could like myself? Do I really want to spend my days with the mind set that if I just do, achieve, reach or succeed in some way or another then I’ll be perfectly happy? Thinking about it now it seems like madness. There are so many more things out there to experience other than the continual search for self acceptance and perfection. Get it over and done with, accept yourself right now and get on with your life.
This time of year everybody and there dog wants to sign up to the gym, self help books are flying off of the shelf and hopes for the future are high. It’s all well and good to ‘strive to be more’ but do it because it’s fun and you enjoy growing and learning, not because you think you are not good enough or anything ‘enough’ as you are literally perfect just the way you are. If you don’t believe me, refer to points 1-7 again. Does anyone else have any reasons why you are perfect just the way you are? Is anyone struggling to believe it?