Classic Lies Youve Been Told about Losing Your Virginity ...

By Holly • May 28, 2015

It's important for women everywhere to know the cold hard facts about their bodies. Unfortunately, sexual education doesn't teach us nearly enough about sex. Unless you have parents or an older sibling who is open enough to talk to you about the birds and the bees, you might have some dangerous misconceptions about sex. However, it's time to change that, because here are a few lies you've been told about losing your virginity:

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1. It's Going to Hurt

Sex will feel uncomfortable the first few times you do it, but it certainly shouldn't hurt as much as people say it will. The reason why most women are in pain the first time is due to a lack of preparation. You need to make sure that you engage in enough foreplay to lubricate yourself down there. If you're dry, then you're going to be in a lot of pain and might even bleed. That's why you need to take things slow and make sure you're physically and mentally ready before you let your boyfriend touch you.

2. You Should Be a Certain Age

When you turn on the TV, everyone everywhere is having sex. However, you don't have to do it while you're still in high school or while you're in college. There's nothing wrong with waiting until you're completely ready, even if that means you're going to wait until your 20s or until you're married. Any friends who tease you about still being a virgin aren't worth your time.

3. Sex Requires a Penis and Vagina

Intercourse doesn't have to include penetration. The actual definition is "sexual activity between two people." That means it's up to you to create your own definition of sex. Some people consider oral to be sex. Some people consider the usage of fingers to be sex. There's no true blue definition, which means you can decide whether you still consider yourself a virgin or not.

4. You're No Longer Innocent

Losing your virginity doesn't mean you're losing your purity. There are plenty of virgins who are naughty and plenty of sexually active individuals who are innocent. There's no correlation between the two.

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5. Your Hymen is a Sign of Virginity

There are plenty of virgins who don't have their hymens intact. It can easily tear from physical exercise and you wouldn't even realize it. So a woman without a hymen could certainly still be a virgin.

6. Sex Will Make Your Vagina Flabby

It doesn't matter how many times you have sex, because your vagina isn't going to get any larger. It acts like a rubber band does. During sex, it'll open up wider than usual, but then it'll go right back to its original size. So you don't have to worry about looking strange down there, because sex won't reshape your body.

7. Sex Will Make a Man Love You

Don't have sex with a guy, because you think it'll make him love you. Unfortunately, sex and love don't always go hand in hand. You can love someone without sleeping with them and you can sleep with someone without loving them. If a boy won't date you now, having sex will only make things worse, not better.

It's important for women everywhere to be aware of the way their bodies work. It's dangerous to have misconceptions about sex and losing your virginity, which is why you should aim to be as informed as possible. What other lies have you been taught about your virginity?

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  • Lisa

    2015-05-30T18:39:21.699Z

    Great article
  • Thelma62913

    2015-05-29T22:01:43.065Z

    I wasn't really told any of the ridiculous lies out there, but I remember working with a bunch of girls who felt that if you used a tampon before having vaginal sex that you lost your virginity!! How insane they sounded. I'm sorry, but in my opinion, having vaginal sexual intercourse is losing your virginity. Or is that the "lie" I've been taught?!
  • True

    2015-05-29T06:44:29.697Z

    People that fornicate are not virgins and people that fornicate outside of marriage are not pure. I have a strong opinion about this and I would not want a family member or someone not a virgin to lie to me that they are when they are not. I dont know how or what this term sex has changed but if you had sex you are not a virgin. Mostly virgins are modest and not playful they are liars if they say so. I feel deeply about this because A. I Am a virgin I have a waiting period which a non virgin cant take. I understand the diversity bit it is wrong to lie and teach someone to lie.
  • SarahEC

    2015-05-29T04:46:06.155Z

    This article was thoughtful, but certainly not extensive. I really applaud the author for addressing this. I hope women receive the compassion they deserve, and realize that your primary relationship is with YOURSELF. Sex is why we are all able to experience life on this planet. More conversation excluding shame is positive! Yay for safer sex!
  • Anna

    2016-06-27T19:34:39.219Z

    simple question: what does sex feel like...what is the fun part of it..why do human have sex apart from the danger of dying out..?
  • Lucie

    2015-05-29T17:14:00.331Z

    @Brittanymadison : with anything that has a pulse ! Wow, your opinion of men is... let's say a bit harsh !
  • NMGreenChile

    2015-05-29T06:18:22.920Z

    Good article! As a retired high school teacher, I would like to clarify a few things and help. EMILY, almost everything Holly wrote applies to gays and lesbians, too. TRUE ALWAYS, there are many points of view about sexuality that should be respected. Certainly, waiting until you are married is a good idea, but it is not the *only* good idea, nor is it a requirement of all religions. In a large, diverse forum such as AWS, it seems wise to respect others' rights to their own values and beliefs. And last but not least, let's remember that *most* types of sexual activity can potentially result in STDs, and so be sure to educate yourself about safe sex.
  • AlexChambers

    2015-05-29T02:29:36.948Z

    I wish you included religion somewhere in here, I hate when people assume that a girl is saving herself for religious reasons rather than doing it for herself.
  • Carly

    2015-05-29T12:31:52.854Z

    Idk about the flabby vag part cuz I know a girl Who sleeps with a lotttt of men and they say her vag is sooo loose it's bad
  • dolapo

    2015-05-28T22:04:05.324Z

    Also virginity is more of A social construct than anything else
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