Without sounding like a complete Grandma, I want to share a bunch of valid reasons to remain a virgin for as long as you can. Don't worry, I am not about to label foreplay as a sin and call man's penis a creation of the devil. Sex is cool guys; I just think that some of the reasons to remain a virgin as long as you can could make it even better in the long run...
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1. Hello Vagina!
Do you know your bits? What feels good and what doesn't? It is a well known fact that if you have a hard time pleasing yourself, the man in your life won't have too much luck either. Before considering letting a pubescent boy fumble nervously downstairs, how about taking the time to become familiar with your own body and what you enjoy. Waiting to have sex and making yourself climax instead, will not only build your self confidence but no doubt make you a better lover in the future.
2. It’s Not like the Movies
Unless you are actually dating Ryan Gosling and he’s up for a bit of role play, your first time will be nothing like The Notebook ladies. At best, your first time will be with someone you love and feel safe and comfortable with. In reality, sex can be awkward and uncomfortable so you want to make sure it is with someone you really care about and can be yourself around.
Frequently asked questions
Staying a virgin can have many benefits like avoiding STDs, emotional complications, and unwanted pregnancies. Plus, you might value the idea of saving yourself for someone truly special.
Absolutely, it's completely your choice! Society often pressures us about sex, but you should do what feels right for you. Everyone's journey is different.
Nope, staying a virgin doesn’t negatively impact your health. In fact, staying a virgin can help you avoid certain health risks like sexually transmitted infections.
Nothing major happens, honestly. The main thing is you might miss out on some sexual experiences, but that’s really up to you. You can still have a full, healthy, and happy life.
People have various reasons: personal beliefs, religious reasons, wanting to wait for the right person, or simply not feeling ready. It’s all very personal and valid.
3. You Have Years of Sexy Times Ahead
The average female lives to the age of 75-85 years old, so say you have sex at 20 then that means that you have over 55-65 years to bump uglies with whoever you please. So what’s the hurry?
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It's like a long, leisurely brunch that lasts decades—you get to savor every bite at your own pace. Imagine all the discoveries, the deep connections, and passionate adventures that can unfold on your timeline. Embracing your sexuality can be thrilling, and there's absolutely no need to rush into the main course when you have a lifetime buffet of experiences waiting ahead. So, indulge in your personal growth, explore your desires, and let the anticipation build. The future holds endless opportunities for pleasure and intimacy on your terms.
4. Give Me the Box
Have you ever watched a child receive a present but be more interested in the box it came in? I liken this situation to the relationship many of us have with foreplay. Foreplay can be amazing but just like the child who grows up and starts to discard the box to get straight to the gift, once you have sex foreplay often gets skipped over. Enjoy foreplay; enjoy holding off and exploring each others' bodies and getting as comfortable as possible before you take that next step.
5. Tricky Business
As a teenager you have to contend with your changing body, school work, peers, pimples, difficult teachers or parents and the fact that you feel as though the world is against you. Why complicate things even further by adding sex into the mix? Relationships can be hard enough work as it is, bringing sex into the equation will only make things more complicated.
6. Side Effects
I know girls who did not use protection and got pregnant in their teens, I also know girls who used protection and got pregnant in their teens. Having sex is one thing, but are you ready to have babies? A solid reason to remain a virgin throughout your teenage years is to ensure that by the time you are ready, you know all the facts, and are prepared to deal with any consequences that your actions may bring about.
7. Set Yourself up
Sex isn't just about the act of sex, it is a relationship you have with yourself. The way you approach sex for the first few times and the sexual relationships you have can impact how you view yourself sexually. Set yourself up for a life of healthy, enjoyable sex by making your first experience pleasurable and loving- something you chose for yourself wholeheartedly.
8. Good Intentions
Contrary to what some may say, sex is a wonderful thing and having it is not something that anyone need be ashamed of. One of the reasons to remain a virgin for as long as you can is so that when you are ready to have sex you can be proud of your decision and know that you are making the choice because it is what you want, not because of peer pressure, guilt, nervousness or uncertainty.
Some girls may not have had the freedom to choose when to loose their virginity and others may have lost there’s a long time ago; it’s all relative. If you are a teenager who is tossing up whether or not you are ready, do you agree or disagree with any of these points? And what about you other ladies out there… looking back, do you have any suggestions for the younger females?
Comments
Jennifer: It's funny how a girl who's a virgin is considered boring, inexperienced and missing out. Missing out on what? Getting dissed by stupid boys who are only after one thing? Missing out on getting stepped on? Missing out on being used? Missing out on feeling bad abt herself w| no self-esteem. It is a 2014 & a girl who loves & respects herself enough to know that she deserves the best, deserves it all! Your body is your business & you can do whatever you want w| it. & for those who've had a negative experience w| a guy who didn't respect you, thank god that loser is out of your life, the man that will truly love you for who you are will think you are the most amazing person bc you've waited for the right one. Sex is an amazing thing especially when you experience w| the one you. So please to those girls don't let social media, bad influences & stupid boys ruin your life. Confidence, security, loving you & staying true to yourself is the key to a successful relationship with yourself.
Teodora: I agree that no girl should feel pressured to have sex but I also feel that articles such as this still put pressure on young women - not to have sex. It is often automatically assumed that all women need a loving relationship with a person to enjoy having sex with them, but that is not always the case. Many girls feel discouraged to explore their sexuality, because they feel they need to fulfill society's expectations to be 'good'. If I had create a similar article it probably will look like this: 1/ Do not have sex if you don't want to. 2/When in doubt, wait. Have a wonderful day, ladies!
Info: I think you should stay a virgin until your marrrrrrried
Lexi: Just actual citations for facts presented and numbers and where you get the information or your articles.
sassy-girl: It ok being a Vagina not bad at all i have for people who are but myself i am not waiting to have sex i think it best to get it over with and plus i read about sex education and vey understanding about it
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