Without sounding like a complete Grandma, I want to share a bunch of valid reasons to remain a virgin for as long as you can. Don't worry, I am not about to label foreplay as a sin and call man's penis a creation of the devil. Sex is cool guys; I just think that some of the reasons to remain a virgin as long as you can could make it even better in the long run...
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1. Hello Vagina!
Do you know your bits? What feels good and what doesn't? It is a well known fact that if you have a hard time pleasing yourself, the man in your life won't have too much luck either. Before considering letting a pubescent boy fumble nervously downstairs, how about taking the time to become familiar with your own body and what you enjoy. Waiting to have sex and making yourself climax instead, will not only build your self confidence but no doubt make you a better lover in the future.
2. It’s Not like the Movies
Unless you are actually dating Ryan Gosling and he’s up for a bit of role play, your first time will be nothing like The Notebook ladies. At best, your first time will be with someone you love and feel safe and comfortable with. In reality, sex can be awkward and uncomfortable so you want to make sure it is with someone you really care about and can be yourself around.
Frequently asked questions
Staying a virgin can have many benefits like avoiding STDs, emotional complications, and unwanted pregnancies. Plus, you might value the idea of saving yourself for someone truly special.
Absolutely, it's completely your choice! Society often pressures us about sex, but you should do what feels right for you. Everyone's journey is different.
Nope, staying a virgin doesn’t negatively impact your health. In fact, staying a virgin can help you avoid certain health risks like sexually transmitted infections.
Nothing major happens, honestly. The main thing is you might miss out on some sexual experiences, but that’s really up to you. You can still have a full, healthy, and happy life.
People have various reasons: personal beliefs, religious reasons, wanting to wait for the right person, or simply not feeling ready. It’s all very personal and valid.
3. You Have Years of Sexy Times Ahead
The average female lives to the age of 75-85 years old, so say you have sex at 20 then that means that you have over 55-65 years to bump uglies with whoever you please. So what’s the hurry?
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It's like a long, leisurely brunch that lasts decades—you get to savor every bite at your own pace. Imagine all the discoveries, the deep connections, and passionate adventures that can unfold on your timeline. Embracing your sexuality can be thrilling, and there's absolutely no need to rush into the main course when you have a lifetime buffet of experiences waiting ahead. So, indulge in your personal growth, explore your desires, and let the anticipation build. The future holds endless opportunities for pleasure and intimacy on your terms.
4. Give Me the Box
Have you ever watched a child receive a present but be more interested in the box it came in? I liken this situation to the relationship many of us have with foreplay. Foreplay can be amazing but just like the child who grows up and starts to discard the box to get straight to the gift, once you have sex foreplay often gets skipped over. Enjoy foreplay; enjoy holding off and exploring each others' bodies and getting as comfortable as possible before you take that next step.
5. Tricky Business
As a teenager you have to contend with your changing body, school work, peers, pimples, difficult teachers or parents and the fact that you feel as though the world is against you. Why complicate things even further by adding sex into the mix? Relationships can be hard enough work as it is, bringing sex into the equation will only make things more complicated.
6. Side Effects
I know girls who did not use protection and got pregnant in their teens, I also know girls who used protection and got pregnant in their teens. Having sex is one thing, but are you ready to have babies? A solid reason to remain a virgin throughout your teenage years is to ensure that by the time you are ready, you know all the facts, and are prepared to deal with any consequences that your actions may bring about.
7. Set Yourself up
Sex isn't just about the act of sex, it is a relationship you have with yourself. The way you approach sex for the first few times and the sexual relationships you have can impact how you view yourself sexually. Set yourself up for a life of healthy, enjoyable sex by making your first experience pleasurable and loving- something you chose for yourself wholeheartedly.
8. Good Intentions
Contrary to what some may say, sex is a wonderful thing and having it is not something that anyone need be ashamed of. One of the reasons to remain a virgin for as long as you can is so that when you are ready to have sex you can be proud of your decision and know that you are making the choice because it is what you want, not because of peer pressure, guilt, nervousness or uncertainty.
Some girls may not have had the freedom to choose when to loose their virginity and others may have lost there’s a long time ago; it’s all relative. If you are a teenager who is tossing up whether or not you are ready, do you agree or disagree with any of these points? And what about you other ladies out there… looking back, do you have any suggestions for the younger females?
Comments
Georgia: This is the worst article I have read in oh gosh I don't know how long, sex releases endorphins which make you happy. Yes a girl should not be a slut but sex is great.
Mirembe: Thanks for the wonderful information.... I was doubting myself all along for staying a virgin since am not ready to be a mother Other people where busy advising me that it's fine. But my heart said no
Taylor: Here's something to think about: the possible long term affects on PEOPLE! My biological mother was a pregnant teen. Being a teen and dealing with high school, she was unable to take care of me. I was soon adopted by her parents, who are biologically my grandparents, but legally my parents. I didn't really get to know my biological mom until around 4th grade. I'm 14 now and I've grown up calling her my sister, for that is what she is now (legally). It's quite awkward growing up with your real mother being your sister. Now for the emotional turn of events in order. When I was little I thought of myself of a mistake and still do. Between 5th and 6th grade I met my biological dad and my three half sisters. His youngest daughter is a year younger than me, oldest daughter only 2 years older than me, and 3rd daughter almost the exact same age. That truely made me feel worse, knowing I was the result of a man cheating on his wife. Not long after, my "parents" got divorced when my "dad" cheated on my "mom" for the 2nd time. He went even further and further with many other things but I think I'll hold on to all that. Thoughts of suicide have been a daily basis thing for the past 2 years for me. I've been diagnosed with depression too. I hate my life. My school life doesn't get any better either. I am what happened from someone deciding not to hold on to their virginity for a while longer and I hope I've helped lighten another aspect to this subject.
Lena: I enjoyed this post! I am just a teenager in high school (16) and i'm glad i'm still a virigin (*plus you gave me more reasons why i should stay a virgin, aside from my relgious belief of no sex before marriage)! :)
waiting: Good article. My fiance and I are both virgins and are so excited for our wedding night. I highly recommend not jumping into sex. (Spelling note: might want to edit "there's" to read "their's" in #8)
Maria: I definitely agree. wait wait wait wait! I feel like with all the social media there's more pressure for teens to have sex or it makes one curious but honestly, waiting to have sex with someone you love is the best decision.
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