Everyone is different and there could be many reasons why your life is not perfect or heading in the direction you had hoped it would be. When I say there are many reasons why your life is not perfect, I mean your definition of perfection, nobody else’s. If your present reality pales in comparison to what you want, then consider the following 10 points and take action...
1. Negative Nancy
We all know about the power of positive thinking, but do we realize that the same applies for negative thinking? If there are certain negative thoughts which you associate with your relationships, career, health or any other area of your life, you can bet your buttocks that they will be negatively impacting your life situation. Negative thoughts can be one of the reasons why your life is not perfect.
2. Action Woman
One of the main differences between those that are living the lives they want and those that are sobbing despairingly over their vision boards, is action or lack thereof . Ideas are great, but it is putting them into action that matters. If you are all talk and no walk, then actually doing something is going to be the only thing that makes any difference worth noting. What could you be doing now?
If you were hoping to one day be a brain surgeon yet are disgruntled because you are still serving cold cuts at Whole Foods, then you need to be realistic with yourself. Do you have the necessary education? If not, what do you need to be able to fulfill your desire and is the requirement realistic? Likewise if you had your heart set on marrying R-Patz – although he’s not married yet, he’s most definitely taken. Being realistic means you have achievable goals, not unrealistic expectations that will leave you feeling disappointed.
4. You've Lost Your Spark
Do you remember when you were a kid and the world was your oyster? Do you remember the enthusiasm that you met life with? Do you still feel the same way? As adults, we often get so caught up in growing up that we lose the stuff that made us, us — our spark. How can we expect to be happy with our lives when what was once enthusiasm and hope has now been replaced with fear and stress?
5. Work Smart, Not Hard
It is great to put in the effort in order to achieve your ‘perfect life,’ but it is important that you are using your energy in the smartest way possible. If your life is not what you want it to be, it may be because, although you are working hard, you are not working smart. Make sure what you are doing is necessary and also the smartest way to achieving your goals.
It is easy to get lost in a project, to let a new job overtake our lives so much so that our workout gear grows dust or we slowly forget our partners' names. However, if you are excelling in one area of your life but are still not satisfied, that may be due to a lack of balance. If you have the perfect job, then how are your health and love life? If your social life is enviable but you feel like your career is going nowhere, then look to where you can make changes at work.
7. Are You Ever Going to Be Satisfied?
How many times have you set a weight loss goal, and then once you reached it, you decided that to be truly happy you need to lose just a few more pounds? When looking at reasons your life is not perfect ask yourself if it will ever be or will you always find something else to want or need in order to be happy? When will enough be enough?
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Your life may not be the life you would like it to be because, although you want something different, you keep doing the same things - so of course, you’ll get more of the same results!
9. Who Are You Living for?
I am a supporter of selfishness. Selfish in the ''it’s my life, I will live it my way,'' not the ''I will not share my box of Oreos with you'' way. Your life may not be perfect because you are too scared to actually start living it for you instead of all those around you. Are you bending over backwards to make everybody else’s dreams come true whilst the life you want passes you by?
10. Sneaky Sabotage
It is not uncommon for people to want something, but when the opportunity knocks, or we meet that special someone or we get close to our goal size – we somehow mess it up. One of the reasons your life is not perfect may be because you sabotage your efforts unknowingly, as you are more familiar with constantly struggling than simply being content with what you have. Pay close attention to any patterns of self sabotage and nip that in the bud by pushing on through.
Our life situation is a mirror reflection of what is going on inside for us and things will only start to change on the outside once we start doing some work on the inside. It’s great to strive for more but it pays to ask why you want what you do and if it will truly make you happy. Can anyone add any insightful reasons why our lives are sometimes not all we want them to be?