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7 Ways to Deal with Having a Miscarriage ...

Dealing with a miscarriage at any stage of a pregnancy is not easy. Becoming pregnant means huge emotional and physical changes, and the end of that pregnancy then leaves you facing disappointment, a sense of loss, and the worry that you will never be a parent. Yet there is often a lack of recognition by medical staff and people around you of the impact of miscarriage. So here are some tips on dealing with a miscarriage โ€“ they can also help if someone you know suffers one โ€ฆ

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1. It is a Loss

The first point when dealing with a miscarriage is to remember that you have suffered a loss. It may only have been weeks into the pregnancy, and you may not even have had your first scan yet. But that baby will have been very real to you and already a part of your life. So even if the pregnancy wasnโ€™t that advanced, youโ€™ve every right to feel a sense of loss.

2. Medical Advice

Miscarriages arenโ€™t usually investigated until a woman has suffered a few. It can still be useful to talk to your doctor, though โ€“ they can reassure you that you did nothing to cause the miscarriage. They can also advise you on anything you can do to help your health in subsequent pregnancies.

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3. Take Time

It can be tempting to try to โ€œreplaceโ€ your lost baby straight away, but it is best to wait before trying to conceive again. Your body needs time to recover (there is always a reason for a miscarriage), and you also need time to grieve for your lost child. So donโ€™t rush into another pregnancy; wait until you are emotionally and physically ready.

4. Chances Are Good

When dealing with a miscarriage, it can help to be aware that your chances of a successful subsequent pregnancy are good. Miscarriage is distressing, but it happens because for some reason the pregnancy isnโ€™t viable. The majority of women who suffer one go on to have a healthy child, so donโ€™t assume that youโ€™ll never have the child you long for.

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5. Talk

If you need to talk to someone, then find a sympathetic ear. Whether itโ€™s a doctor or counsellor, your mum or best friend, itโ€™s important to tell people how you feel. Donโ€™t bottle up your feelings. And donโ€™t forget that your partner may need to talk as well โ€“ just because he wasnโ€™t carrying the baby doesnโ€™t mean that he isnโ€™t upset.

6. Accept Your Feelings

Another point to remember when dealing with a miscarriage is that your feelings are perfectly valid. Others may think that if you lose a baby at a very early stage, itโ€™s not as big a deal as if it were later on in the pregnancy. You are entitled to feel whatever you feel, so if you are sad, donโ€™t listen to anyone who tells you pull yourself together (in fact, thatโ€™s a dumb thing to tell anyone whatever the circumstances!).

7. Relax in Future Pregnancies

When youโ€™ve suffered a miscarriage, youโ€™re bound to be anxious in future pregnancies. Try to relax, even if it is easier said than done. As Iโ€™ve already mentioned, most women do have a baby later on, so enjoy your pregnancy and donโ€™t spend the entire time fretting that something will go wrong. This is a different situation, and there is no reason, unless you have a medical issue, why the same thing should happen again.

Dealing with a miscarriage is difficult, and brings so many emotions. However, itโ€™s important to remember that they are surprisingly common (many women have an early-stage miscarriage without even realising that they are pregnant). So miscarriage doesnโ€™t mean that you will never be a mum. Have you ever experienced a miscarriage, and how did people react โ€“ was there a lack of sympathy and advice just to try again?

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