9 Things All Virgins Need to Stop Stressing about and Chill ...

When you're a virgin, it's scary to think about what sex will be like. However, there's no point in stressing over certain aspects of it. Listen to Gurl's advice and stop worrying about these things:

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If He'll Know You're a Virgin

If He'll Know You're a Virgin There's no reason to hide the fact that you've never slept with someone. If he finds out, he'll consider himself lucky to be your first!

If You'll Bleed

If You'll Bleed If your hymen tears, there could be a little blood, but it won't be like anything out of a horror movie.

If "It" Will Fit

If "It" Will Fit It doesn't matter how big he is or how small you are, because it'll definitely fit.

If You're Doing It Right

If You're Doing It Right You can't be a pro your first time. Practice makes perfect.

If He Likes What You Look like

If He Likes What You Look like As long as you've showered, he shouldn't mind what you look like below the belt. He'll just be happy you're stripping for him.

If It's Going to Be Good

If It's Going to Be Good Everyone feels differently about sex, but you won't know how much you like it until you try it.

When It'll Actually Happen

When It'll Actually Happen Don't push yourself to have sex before you're ready. It'll happen when it happens.

How Much It Will Hurt

How Much It Will Hurt If your man gets you excited enough for sex and goes slow, then you shouldn't feel any pain. Sex is supposed to be enjoyable, after all.

What Others Will Think

What Others Will Think Your body is none of their business. Do what makes you happy and stop worrying about your reputation.

If you're a virgin, don't stress yourself out too much by worrying about sex. Do you worry about any of these things?

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I understand your opinion Paula, but I believe that people should do whatever feels right. If someone takes necessary precautions and truly feels that the timing or person is right, then who is anyone else to tell them to wait till they're married. And honestly, nowadays most people don't wait and turn out just fine.

The hymen can be stretched or torn by a lot of different things that aren't sex (fingers, tampons, non-sexual strenuous activities, etc) so it's more than likely torn before sex. Also, some hymen tissue is flexible so it's simply moved during sex.

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Lol to most of the comments sex is something that happens to take your virginity and then your like the rest of us women! Your unique just the way you are wait for that special person if he loves you you can test him let him or her prove worthy enough to enter your body!!!!!!

Some people don't even have hymens. Most times you bleed are if your not ready, don't use lube, and he's too rough. It will just stretch of your do it right, tearing it will cause pain.

Nice article. Everyone has their own opinion and there is no right or wrong answer just as long as you feel it's right. Everyone has to know what's best for them.

Jennapher- the "it'll hurt" thing is usually due to the fact that women are nervous about it. Society has made it a sacred thing that you are ashamed to "lose" at the same time excited. But a lot of the painful experiences are from being to nervous and not being turned on enough, or if you don't get wet enough, not enough lube. Friction is a thing during sex that you do not want, so the more lube the better. A lot of first timers also don't do enough foreplay, and therefore again not turned on enough so you don't open as much and have less natural lube. His penis CAN be too big that it hurts. It'll always fit, but it can hurt. A lot of pornstars with big penis' turn pornstars because they couldn't get laid any other way.

You should wait until you get married so there are no mistakes that will leave you regretting what you did that's why it's not good because you might find yourself afterwards sleeping with to many people there is a reason why you are still a virgin think about it

And Paula - Honestly don't worry about other people's sex life. It's none of your business. It's not a bad thing to sleep with one person your whole life and it's not a bad thing to sleep with several people weekly, as long as you're safe about it both ways, it's not a bad thing. It's everyone's choice who and how many they sleep with, and just like I'm sure you wouldn't want everyone else worrying and gossiping about your sex life, don't worry or gossip about anyone else's. Let them be them and you be you. Besides, why is that sleeping with the same guy 500 times (an average 1 1/2 - 2 year in a relationship) is perfectly okay but sleeping with 5 guys once is not? Realistically if it's the number of peniss that have been in someone, the people in the relationships are more sexually active than the single person.

I'm still a virgin n will be 35 this November. My question is will I bleed if I have sex after marriage which is next year or so. Im still looking for a partner though n have been dating but it never works out. I'm really active in the gym n do strength training twice a week n cardio 3 times a week. I'm not sure if my hymen is still intact at this age.

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