I understand your opinion Paula, but I believe that people should do whatever feels right. If someone takes necessary precautions and truly feels that the timing or person is right, then who is anyone else to tell them to wait till they're married. And honestly, nowadays most people don't wait and turn out just fine.

I'm a virgin and I don't worry about more than half of these things.

Auks her statement was just an opinion. Your telling her to don't worry about her comment but you took the time and tell her what's none of her business. Her business or not she still has a voice, an opinion. People claim and say let people be them and they can say w.e but people that tells them what they shouldn't do like your doing

Well said too much drama but most girl through the stress however!

Some people don't even have hymens. Most times you bleed are if your not ready, don't use lube, and he's too rough. It will just stretch of your do it right, tearing it will cause pain.

For all the people arguing, places that teach abstinence and no sex until marriage have the highest teen pregnancy rates (;

Jennapher- the "it'll hurt" thing is usually due to the fact that women are nervous about it. Society has made it a sacred thing that you are ashamed to "lose" at the same time excited. But a lot of the painful experiences are from being to nervous and not being turned on enough, or if you don't get wet enough, not enough lube. Friction is a thing during sex that you do not want, so the more lube the better. A lot of first timers also don't do enough foreplay, and therefore again not turned on enough so you don't open as much and have less natural lube. His penis CAN be too big that it hurts. It'll always fit, but it can hurt. A lot of pornstars with big penis' turn pornstars because they couldn't get laid any other way.

And Paula - Honestly don't worry about other people's sex life. It's none of your business. It's not a bad thing to sleep with one person your whole life and it's not a bad thing to sleep with several people weekly, as long as you're safe about it both ways, it's not a bad thing. It's everyone's choice who and how many they sleep with, and just like I'm sure you wouldn't want everyone else worrying and gossiping about your sex life, don't worry or gossip about anyone else's. Let them be them and you be you. Besides, why is that sleeping with the same guy 500 times (an average 1 1/2 - 2 year in a relationship) is perfectly okay but sleeping with 5 guys once is not? Realistically if it's the number of peniss that have been in someone, the people in the relationships are more sexually active than the single person.

Isn't your hymen supposed to tear though? ((Virgin too and IDK))