I'm not really worried about these things, but good article

Jennapher- the "it'll hurt" thing is usually due to the fact that women are nervous about it. Society has made it a sacred thing that you are ashamed to "lose" at the same time excited. But a lot of the painful experiences are from being to nervous and not being turned on enough, or if you don't get wet enough, not enough lube. Friction is a thing during sex that you do not want, so the more lube the better. A lot of first timers also don't do enough foreplay, and therefore again not turned on enough so you don't open as much and have less natural lube. His penis CAN be too big that it hurts. It'll always fit, but it can hurt. A lot of pornstars with big penis' turn pornstars because they couldn't get laid any other way.

Nice concise article

Some people don't even have hymens. Most times you bleed are if your not ready, don't use lube, and he's too rough. It will just stretch of your do it right, tearing it will cause pain.

I'm still virgin and also not worried about any of these things. Anyway, thanks for posting @Holly. :)

Sorry lol phone acting up. It's a greater chance the boy will be there for that girl than one of the guys outta 5 if she has a child. Having a lot of partners isn't a good thing. If you get pregnant then what? The child lives with a woman where men Come and go, like you said a women can sleep with however many she want. But a child needs a stable home and with BOTH of their parents. Sometimes the outcome is good but sometimes it isn't. Especially when you have too many partners. And especially if you don't know who the partner is from sleeping too much. Y'all encouraging having multiple partners is okay when a lot of women have children and don't know who the father is, or had the wrong dad that don't want the child, catch a disease. You don't have to have sex to have a disease. So both of y'all opinions is a 100% correct all the way

I understand your opinion Paula, but I believe that people should do whatever feels right. If someone takes necessary precautions and truly feels that the timing or person is right, then who is anyone else to tell them to wait till they're married. And honestly, nowadays most people don't wait and turn out just fine.

Auks her statement was just an opinion. Your telling her to don't worry about her comment but you took the time and tell her what's none of her business. Her business or not she still has a voice, an opinion. People claim and say let people be them and they can say w.e but people that tells them what they shouldn't do like your doing

You should wait until you get married so there are no mistakes that will leave you regretting what you did that's why it's not good because you might find yourself afterwards sleeping with to many people there is a reason why you are still a virgin think about it

Great post, Holly! No BS...why is it that guys don't seem to worry about experience like this? Umm, they were/are virgins too, right? And can we finally dispense with the myth that it will be "painful" and that you will "bleed"? If a guy has taken the time to learn a little but about female sexuality, he should know that he needs to take his time, no matter what his penis may be screaming. If he takes his time, or maybe even invests in a lubricant, the adds are all over TV, there is no reason for losing your virginity to be painful. And why does "the first time" have to be imbued with such mythology? For a man, it's like, the sooner the better. For a girl, it "should be special." Heck yeah! It should be enjoyable and fun, isn't that special too? And gee, you may just like sex so much, you'll want to do it some more, and we know how dangerous that can be! What's really ironic, Holly, is you post this very helpful, practical information at a time when some politicians want to de-fund Planned Parenthood, a place where any girl can go to get this same information, delivered without either encouragement or discouragement. And, most importantly, find out about protection!! A girl who carries a condom in her clutch isn't a slut, she's just smart!